Day 2: Conduct an Honest Self-Assessment
"Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it."
– Eckhart Tolle
I must admit that a couple years back Self-Assessment was not something I was familiar with, applied to me or was even in my vocabulary. Assess myself? For what. I was perfect and not a flaw in or on me. Well at least in my eyes I thought I was. Thank God for conviction of the Holy Spirit! My blind eyes can not see! Self-Assessment is something I practice and do regularly. I can not really help it cause I am ALWAYS getting convicted! I am excited for this exercise and will approach it openly and honestly despite having looked at all these areas in my life.
The purpose of todays exercise is the following:
1. To force you to own up to exactly which areas you’d like to improve upon in your life.
Ok that is not a problem, I got that
2. To give you encouragement to build on what’s already great about it.
Now this is a work in progress for me. It can be so hard not to look at all the negative aspects of my present situation and discredit, disregard and ignore the things that are going well. I look forward to being encouraged to build on what's already great about my life! I am learning to appreciate and be grateful for what I have and noticed the good things that are working.
Here I go!
I have taken a look and an honest assessment of seven specific areas of my life and asked myself the following two questions. What do I like about this area of my life? What do I dislike about it?
My Current Reality:
Lifestyle & Fun (satisfaction with your living environment including where you live, quality of your leisure time)
Like: Living Environment- I enjoy living in the windy city as a single. I am living on my own and love my space and place of serenity. I have a beautiful view of the city and lake on the 22nd floor and a cozy place which I can call my own-home. My home is peaceful and in a prime location. God has provided me with beautiful, comfortable home of my own. I love living by the lake/beach. Fun/Leisure-My schedule has always been filled with FUN! I enjoy being around my friends and out having a good time. Since I moved to the city my leisure time has not just increased but is filled with so much more variety. Living in the city allows me to be accessible to everything and everyone. I have experienced so many new things and spontaneous outings. I love my "ME" time that I have regularly and my current space allows it. God has opened doors for a new lifestyle one that I never thought I would would, in the city.
Dislike: I am very much a suburban at heart and the only reason why I am living in the city is because my job has mandated it. Living in the city connects me to my job. I dreaded having to resign my lease due to my work situation.
Career & Work (satisfaction with your job, career or business, including the substance of your work)
Like: I have expertise including 6years of advising/counseling experience. After being in the same position for over 6 years in different educational institutions, my current place I love the students! I am a blessing to the students I see every single day. There is a need at my school and I provide a way of education, chances, empowerment, encouragement and support. God is using me daily and lives are being changed. God gave an opportunity to love the students I serve. God gave me the possibility of being completely independent and grow into a better woman. God has always allowed me to keep and maintain employment. This job was a major increase and allowed me to move on my own.
Dislike: Politics at my job. There is not much flexibility. Sitting for long periods of time. My work hours are from 10:30am-6:30pm. Wanting to do more with the students. Presently not being offered a course to teach for the upcoming term. Lack of growth opportunity. Business practices/systems in place. Tried of doing the same exact thing for so long. I want to work for myself (Entrepreneur). I long to become a life coach, motivational speaker, author, teacher…….Needless to say I want more beyond where I am. My goals and dreams and the vision for my life are not being pursued and lived out. Not walking and living in my fullest capacity. Not utilizing my LPC & NCC (Licensed Professional Counselor & Nationally Certified Counselor)
Money & Finances (the current state of your budget/money management, personal wealth, salary, net worth, debt-to-income ratio)
Likes: I currently am not without and my needs are being provided for and met. I am a faithful tither and giver. I have a great credit score. I have a nice savings. My wants are being met. God has blessed me to be a lender and not a borrower to others. God has never allowed me to go without.
Dislikes: My debt to income ratio is out of wack. Sallie Mae is trying to drown me in student loan debt and I have not and can not pay them. My car debt. I have no personal wealth or investments. My salary needs an increase. Lack financial freedom. I desire multiple streams of income and presently I have one income.
Health & Wellness (satisfaction with the state of your physical/mental health, level of self-care)
Likes: Physical-I am in better shape then I have ever been. I like the way I look and not far from ideal self. I am now a runner (up to 8miles). I enjoy eating healthy and started blending and juicing and I love it. God is a healer and I have no major or minor health issues/concerns. What was thought to be breast cancer turned out to be hormonal, and God saved me from it. Mental-God is keeping me in the midst of a great loss. I have access to numerous spiritual and motivational material that I review on a dial basis. God's word is instilled in my mind, heart and soul.
Dislikes: Physical-Exercise not being a consistent and constant part of my life. Often times when I get to where I want to be I stop. I am hooked on McDonalds' Carmel Frappe's and I have one almost everyday 🙁 Mental-Negativity. Forgetfulness, lack of focus and concentration. – Trigger from the recent loss of my mother (4months in). Confusion and lost. Self Care-Do not like the current state and calls for immediate improvement and changes.
Family & Friends (quality of your relationships with family and friends, including parents, siblings and children)
Likes: Family-I like how bonds are created, relationships exist and love displayed. God is restoring my family and I can see the change. My family is growing closer. Friends-I am blessed to have such close friends. I love the connection that my college friends and I have. I have a true best friend in my life that is like a sister to me. I am always shown love and support from those that are close to me. I have true friendships and bonds that will never be broken. God has shown favor in my relationships. I am happy that everyone in my life is there to stay and holds a positive impact on my life.
Dislikes: I miss my best fiend-my mother. Apart of my world is gone and a chunk of my heart has been removed since she left. Feelings of not having a family because my mother was the family.
Love & Romance (satisfaction with romantic relationship(s) including sexual life)
Likes: N/A. I am enjoying the single life. I am comfortable with being celibate and knowing my worth. I know that it feels like to be celibate in a relationship and the power, purpose and connection that it holds. I desire to wait until marriage. I do however like that people are drawn to me and very attracted to who I am as a person and all that I have to offer. As a single woman I have made the choice to live life for me and to work on my self, goals, dreams, aspirations and vision as I wait for the right man to come along. I am choosing and allowing myself to be open to all possibilities and believe that marriage and a family is in the cards for me.
Dislikes: Once I have a man, I have a problem keeping him. I tend to run away and display lack of endurance. Push people away or lose interest quick. I do not walk in love daily and I desire to change that. I have not trusted God in this area and have spoken death and not life over it. Love & Romance is not at all a priority.
Personal Growth & Spirituality (satisfaction with educational and learning goals, quality of your spiritual life and how you honor your spiritual beliefs)
Likes: I am actively pursuing advancement in my personal growth and development. I am learning more and more about myself. I am taking steps to improving myself. I am educated-M.A. I am a Christian. I yearn for Gods word and to learn more about Him. God is the focus and center of my life. I seek to be more obedient and a follower. I have a church home and in ministry. I attend bible study regularly.
Dislikes: Not being where I want to be personally and spiritually. Battling with the same issues. Lack of spiritual direction, trust and wisdom. Not completely surrendering. Prayer life, devotion, reading and alone time has decreased since loss of mother. No meditation or positive affirmations. Being more of a doer of the word.
This exercise forced me to think about the positive side to various aspects of my life. It can be so easy to run down a list of what you don't like but to challenge yourself to see what is working and the good is even more impactful. This helped me to not only put things into perspective of where I am right now in my life but it encourages me to be grateful and thankful for the good that I do have going on. As I look over my self-assessment in each 7 areas, I shockingly see that there is a lot of good then I thought. There is areas for growth, change and improvement and areas where I can build upon my strengths. There are a lot of things that are working in my favor and places that I never imagined I would be. Knowing where you are helps to learn where you are going.
Honest is always the best policy! My honesty is what attracts and keeps people in my life. If you can't be honest with yourself, how could you ever be honest with anyone else?
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